Firstborn is turning 6 in a few days. We had a talk about bullying and hitting last night. I laid down my rules and checked if he remembers well:
ME: So, what’s the first rule about hitting?
Firstborn: I will not hit first.
ME: What do you do if a girl hits you?
Firstborn: Tell her I don’t hit girls and go away from her?
ME: What do you do when a boy hits you?
Firstborn: Tell him that hitting is not good.
ME: What if he hits you again?
Firstborn: Tell him don’t hit me or i’ll hit you back.
ME: And if he hits you for the third time?
Firstborn: I will hit him real hard so he will never hit me again.
Firstborn: But Mommy, what if he hits me again several times?
ME: Then I will hit you real hard so you’ll know how to hit hard.
That simply shows that you were not effective enough to scare bullies away!
Tough talk,yes! But I am a Mom of two boys and bullying is an ever-present threat these days. I will never allow my kiddos to be bullies but I will not allow them to be bullied, too.
I ended it with:
ME: But you’re both likable boys, babe. You’ll do just fine!