Comments on: Burden of Guilt is on the Stay-at-Home Mom http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/ writing down my thoughts as the cradle rocks Wed, 23 May 2012 00:56:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: wendy http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-9889 wendy Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:22:27 +0000 http://myrockingcradle.com/?p=5315#comment-9889 as is often said, girls are easier to handle than boys. though i can't personally compare:-). hubby always take the credit for everything positive with the boys hahaha... he loves to take the credit especially for their good looks. as is often said, girls are easier to handle than boys. though i can’t personally compare:-).

hubby always take the credit for everything positive with the boys hahaha… he loves to take the credit especially for their good looks.

]]> By: wendy http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-9888 wendy Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:18:21 +0000 http://myrockingcradle.com/?p=5315#comment-9888 thanks for the reassuring words, joie. i just need to vent out sometimes for some reality check, too. thanks for the reassuring words, joie. i just need to vent out sometimes for some reality check, too.

]]> By: wendy http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-9887 wendy Mon, 24 Jan 2011 03:17:11 +0000 http://myrockingcradle.com/?p=5315#comment-9887 thanks for the nod of confidence, tes. budlay ma gin mommy, noh? sang bakasyon ko sa iloilo, istoryahanay kami sg HS friend ko... pareho kami nabudlayan maging mommy. indi kami maintindihan sg iban nga mommies hahaha. thanks for the nod of confidence, tes. budlay ma gin mommy, noh? sang bakasyon ko sa iloilo, istoryahanay kami sg HS friend ko… pareho kami nabudlayan maging mommy. indi kami maintindihan sg iban nga mommies hahaha.

]]> By: Annp http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-9886 Annp Sun, 23 Jan 2011 07:39:02 +0000 http://myrockingcradle.com/?p=5315#comment-9886 I can totally relate with how you feel. My 11-month old son is such a handful nowadays and he's starting to assert himself more and more each day. Just the other day, hubby mentioned that our son is stubborn like me. He said something about sons being more like their mothers and daughters being more like their dads. So I guess hubby wants to take credit for our daughter who is generally well-behaved and was mellow and easy to handle as a baby. :) I think other people will always have an opinion about how we raise our kids. My parents are currently staying with us and they give me pointers here and there about how to raise the little ones. And hubby and I end up butting horns sometimes about our parenting styles. But our kids will grow up to be their own person someday. All we can do is provide the best possible environment for them to grow, develop and reach their full potential. Don't worry too much. You're doing a good job and your kids will be fine...:) I can totally relate with how you feel. My 11-month old son is such a handful nowadays and he’s starting to assert himself more and more each day. Just the other day, hubby mentioned that our son is stubborn like me. He said something about sons being more like their mothers and daughters being more like their dads. So I guess hubby wants to take credit for our daughter who is generally well-behaved and was mellow and easy to handle as a baby. :)

I think other people will always have an opinion about how we raise our kids. My parents are currently staying with us and they give me pointers here and there about how to raise the little ones. And hubby and I end up butting horns sometimes about our parenting styles.

But our kids will grow up to be their own person someday. All we can do is provide the best possible environment for them to grow, develop and reach their full potential. Don’t worry too much. You’re doing a good job and your kids will be fine…:)

]]> By: Joei http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-9881 Joei Fri, 21 Jan 2011 18:06:08 +0000 http://myrockingcradle.com/?p=5315#comment-9881 I'm not a Mom but I am a daughter and whatever 'flaws' I may have, I never (not for one second) think that it's because of how I was brought up by my parents. So don't be too hard on yourself .... :) I’m not a Mom but I am a daughter and whatever ‘flaws’ I may have, I never (not for one second) think that it’s because of how I was brought up by my parents. So don’t be too hard on yourself …. :)

]]> By: ~*~thess~*~ http://myrockingcradle.com/2011/01/burden-of-guilt-is-on-the-stay-at-home-mom/comment-page-1/#comment-9880 ~*~thess~*~ Fri, 21 Jan 2011 09:58:07 +0000 http://myrockingcradle.com/?p=5315#comment-9880 hi weng... long time i haven't posted here.. but i always check ur blogs. what can i say? you're being too harsh on yourself. you are a wonderful mom. and i'm not saying that because you're my friend but because you are all that. as a mom, myself, i realized that we can't be what others may want us to be a kind of a mom they want. we have to be The Mom we want to be. Others may Be that our in-laws, our Aunties, Uncles, Parents or any relatives. We can appreciate their opinions, but that's where the buck stops. The decision lies unto our hands... as a mom, and as a partner to our spouses. I look at my KHloe.. and i find her too -- determined. For a 16 months old, I did not expect that. A relative told me "she's too aggressive". It concerned me at first. Then I told her pediatrician about the comment, and what a relief to be told that my baby is just a normal toddler who is very healthy. He would rather have a healthy and active baby, than a baby who just sits around the corner or wanna be held all the time. At one instance, I was offended when I was told that I'm not teaching Khloe how to "bless"(mano) when her cousin blesses everybody. For a 13 months old, they want me to teach my baby how to bless (comparing her to a 15mo). I cried. I felt so inadequate as a MOM. I really thought I am not a good MOM, the way they told me about KHloe not blessing. Then, I poured such sentiments to a friend... gathered myself once again.. and with will and determintaion decided to never again, let anybody make me feel so INADEQUATE as a MOM. We will raise our kids to be what they are and how they would embrace life exactly as how we want them to be. And that is our privilege and our right as their birth-MOM. No one can take that away from us. And cliche as it is a passe too --- Mothers do know what is best for their child. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -- Eleonore Roosevelt. hi weng… long time i haven’t posted here.. but i always check ur blogs.

what can i say? you’re being too harsh on yourself. you are a wonderful mom. and i’m not saying that because you’re my friend but because you are all that.

as a mom, myself, i realized that we can’t be what others may want us to be a kind of a mom they want. we have to be The Mom we want to be. Others may Be that our in-laws, our Aunties, Uncles, Parents or any relatives. We can appreciate their opinions, but that’s where the buck stops. The decision lies unto our hands… as a mom, and as a partner to our spouses.

I look at my KHloe.. and i find her too — determined. For a 16 months old, I did not expect that. A relative told me “she’s too aggressive”. It concerned me at first. Then I told her pediatrician about the comment, and what a relief to be told that my baby is just a normal toddler who is very healthy. He would rather have a healthy and active baby, than a baby who just sits around the corner or wanna be held all the time.

At one instance, I was offended when I was told that I’m not teaching Khloe how to “bless”(mano) when her cousin blesses everybody. For a 13 months old, they want me to teach my baby how to bless (comparing her to a 15mo). I cried. I felt so inadequate as a MOM. I really thought I am not a good MOM, the way they told me about KHloe not blessing. Then, I poured such sentiments to a friend… gathered myself once again.. and with will and determintaion decided to never again, let anybody make me feel so INADEQUATE as a MOM.

We will raise our kids to be what they are and how they would embrace life exactly as how we want them to be. And that is our privilege and our right as their birth-MOM. No one can take that away from us. And cliche as it is a passe too — Mothers do know what is best for their child.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. — Eleonore Roosevelt.

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