Comments on: To Fight or Not to Fight

By: Ann P.

Ann P. — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 17:02:14 +0000

My daughter is 8 years old and is in 3rd grade. When she was younger, she would tell me about something bad that happened in school — days, weeks or even months after it happened! I told her that if someone is being mean or hurtful that she should tell the teacher or any other adult in school right away. I told her not to wait after school to tell me about what happened because by then, it will be too late. It’s best to tell the teacher as soon as possible so the teacher can talk to her classmate right away and also tell that child’s parent when they come to pick up that child from school. And my daughter has learned to do that. Nowadays, when something like that happens, she would report to me that someone was being mean and that she told the teacher and that the teacher reprimanded that person.

By: wendy

wendy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 07:13:34 +0000

Hi Eden – Nobody would want their child to be the bully but neither does anybody would want their child to be bullied. I wouldn’t want my son running home to me crying because he was bullied by somebody. I will have to go back with him and watch how he gets back at that bully:-) As long as he didn’t start the fight. After that, I will allow him to cry.

Bravo to your co-worker. You laid out a situation very easy to understand:-)

By: Eden

Eden — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 05:48:33 +0000

This is one thing I don't understand ate. My co-worker was talking about this too the other day. She said that her son is an "A" student but he's just a loner type of person. His classmates bully him most of the time to the point of shoving his face but ,the other day, my co-worker was called by her son's teacher saying that he pushed one of his classmates real hard. My co-worker told me that, instead of getting mad at him, they even gave him $20 and told their son that they were proud of him. I don't really understand this. ^^;;; Eden´s last blog post..Pamper Your Self

By: wendy

wendy — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 00:40:18 +0000

hi Jill – when my son was about 18months old, he was always hit by his playmate. he would just cry. the mother wanted my son to hit back. i said no. so, i always tell my son to tell the playmate, “Don’t hit me. Hitting is bad”. He eventually learned to hit:-) LOL. He sees and experiences it a lot of times.

But, yeah I agree with you. Violence is never the answer:-).

By: Jill@ModernMommyBlog

Jill@ModernMommyBlog — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:35:49 +0000

I know what you mean by it is so hard to see your child hurting. I struggle sometimes when DD is playing with her older cousins and I see them not sharing with her or playing keep away. I have to remind myself that it is teaching her good social skills. Since she doesn't have any siblings to play with at home she needs this social time. Personally I don't teach her to hit back just because I don't believe in violence as the answer, ever. Unless of course it is self defense. Plus, it is usually my DD that is doing the hitting so it is usually me disciplining her NOT to hit. Jill@ModernMommyBlog´s last blog post..Potty Time Tuesday

By: cher

cher — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 15:32:44 +0000

“When somebody hits you, tell him ‘Don’t hit me’. When he hits you again, make sure to HIT HIM HARD!“. ***BRAVO!!!!!! Your husband was right.....and I definitely like the last part.......kkkk. cher´s last blog post..The White House Chef