I went to a number of day care centers before I settled for the Kinder Schule in Mapo. For the first three months, my son only attended a twice a week, 2 hours program. This month, I have enrolled him for a three days, whole day program. Whole day program starts at 10 in the morning until 2:20 in the afternoon. The bus would pick him up at 9:20 am and would drop him off at 3:10 in the afternoon.

We started last Monday. Unfortunately, the school called me to inform that my son had a fever.

If I will be asked by a foreigner who has a toddler and who does not know how to speak Korean (like me!), I would recommend this school. The owner (Michelle) speaks very good English. A Korean teacher (Jen) also speaks very good English and they have an American teacher (Liza), as well. My son goes to her whenever he feels upset or lonely.

Kinder Schule is quite expensive. It’s rate is way above the regular daycare because it is a franchise. One month for one toddler is priced at 850,000-won. For those who are aware of the daycare rates around Seoul, this may sound irrationally expensive. In my case, I have no choice:-).

But more than having no choice, I have personally experienced good service from the management. The owner, Michelle, went out of her way to reach out and talk to me about my son’s progress. I call Jen even during weekends about any concern. I have seen how comfortably my son sits down on Liza’s lap. During the first days I left my son in the daycare to be on his own for two hours, I have seen how he automatically runs towards Liza for comfort. When he got used to being left in the daycare, he willingly reaches out his arms to be carried by his homeroom teacher. Sometimes, he forgot to kiss me good bye.

This week, when my son just stayed at home because of his throat infection (which is just viral - no antibiotics this time, thanks!), I got phone calls from his teachers to ask about his progress.

For a stay-at-home mom like me, it was also a struggle letting go of my son. We were together twenty-four hours a day. We started from me being with him in school, then me leaving him for two hours on his own. Now, I wouldn’t be eating lunch with him anymore for three times a week. The transition is good both for me and him:-).

For those foreigners who are trying to find a good day care for their toddlers, this is the only day care I could speak highly of around Mapo… for the simple reason that I can’t relate with other daycares because they don’t speak English (not one staff) and I don’t speak Korean.

For a better alternative? Diligently learn your Korean:-).

My son had three attacks of throat infection for the month of June. He is still recovering from his third throat infection today. It’s frustrating… and tiring.

Because of my son’s sickness, we were going back and forth to the pediatrician’s clinic. Aside from my son’s condition, what irritates me the most is the pronuciation of the word INFECTION as INJECTION.

How hard is it to pronounce the word “infection”? Even for Koreans? And I had been listening to three Korean pediatricians! And they had all been saying “injection“!

Seemingly minor concern from me here but really, think about these:

  • These doctors are Korean professionals.
  • Infection is a medical term; being a doctor is being IN a medical profession!
  • Infection is a basic medical term. So what if it is an English word!

Grrrr! They do need to look beyond Korea!

Do you feel comfortable talking about finances and financial management with your spouse?

My husband is a certified public accountant but he hasn’t been a practicing one. Since he got his CPA license, he opted to go the way of consulting reasoning out that auditing is not the only field for CPAs. The auditing and consulting firm he first worked for had a strong and well-supported consulting group so he was well-trained and well-prepared when he was pirated from that firm. But his CPA background is never put to waste that’s why I always rely on him when it comes to financial management.

I have no worries about his spending habits. He has to worry about mine (joke!). We rarely do impulsive buying but last Sunday we had so much fun trying on some sunglasses that before we knew it, we got each one for us. That came as a little bit of a surprise for us and we had a lengthy discussion about finances after that. Good thing, there’s a sense of comfort whenever we have our money talks so I don’t need check for some tips to combat irresponsible spending habits.

Little Dynamo is having throat infection again. This time it’s milder but he still needs to stay at home and cuddle with mommy when the fever is high.

Last week was so bad he was vomiting a lot. The doctor told us not to give him milk until he felt better. Each time he asked me for milk, I told him he can’t yet. He might vomit. He will have milk when he feels better. He learned the lesson well.

This morning, he asked for milk. Hubby looked at me for approval. I nodded.

Hubby: Ok, please wait for your milk.

Little Dynamo: Oh! But if I drink milk, I will vomit. So, I will not drink milk.

Hubby: (amused) You can drink milk. Just a little.

Little Dynamo: Ok, just a little. Because if I drink a lot of milk, I will vomit. So, just a little.

 

Was he just testing our consistency?:-)

How I wish I could dance! But I do love to watch people gracefully dancing. It is even more delightful to watch graceful and well-dressed dancers.

There are many dancing and dance styles but ballet is perhaps the most classic you could ever watch. However, I am more enthralled with Spanish and Latin dances. They have colorful and lovely costumes, too.  The shoes should always be carefully chosen or else… you’ll end up with cracked toes. I am sure for dancers, they need to have reliable dance accesories so they could comfortably go about with their dancing unmindful of any pain.

If I am going to have a girl (my husband hopes so), I would be happy to see her enjoying music and dancing. I will support her interest all the way and enroll her in her choice of dance lessons:-).

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Last week, my part-time helper brought a sad news. The live-in partner of my former part-timer was caught again in a factory raid and was immediately scheduled to be deported back to the Philippines. This was his second time to be deported back to the Philippines.

There are thousands of silently existing Filipino workers here in Seoul who are undocumented. They peacefully go about their ways, maximizing their work hours so they would be able to send enough money for their dependents back home. Go to Hyehwa every Sunday… and they all flock there. Not all are undocumented, but most are. This is just one question you don’t openly ask.

I got to know my two former part-time helpers through a nun-friend from Hyehwa. The Catholic church was my only link with other Filipinos then and if there were people I could bring myself to trust, they should be coming from the church. I had two helpers for different days of the week and I immediately saw my son warmed up to them instantly. The “interview” went with a candid admission that they were undocumented.

Marife had been living here in Seoul for three years already. She came over as a tourist. After a few months, she became undocumented. She met another Filipino, Jimmy, with whom she became pregnant. They lived together until she delivered her baby daughter here in Seoul. Being undocumented, they had to immediately send the baby back to the Philippines before she turns one month old. I’m not sure about the process but she told me they had to send her baby to the Philippines because the longer the baby stays here, the more difficult it will be to bring her home without the mother. At three weeks old, the baby boarded the plane carried by Marife’s Filipino friend (the friend was working here legally). Upon arrival at the airport in the Philippines, the baby was turned over to the waiting grandparents who went to Manila from the province.

Marife could do nothing but cry her heart out unless she also decides to go back to the Philippines and be with her baby… without a job and without money. Marife and Jimmy, with some friends, had to comfort each other and bear the longing for their baby. After a month, Jimmy was caught in a factory raid. He was deported back to the Philippines. Marife worked doubly hard for their baby’s needs, her family’s needs and Jimmy’s needed cash to be able to go back here in Seoul. Jimmy processed his papers again and after several months, under a different name, was able able to come back here in Seoul. He looked and looked for a job all the while cautious of being caught. It took a number of months before he got another factory job. They were living quietly, working diligently and attending bible study sessions. They have a good circle of supportive friends. And then last week, Jimmy was caught again. Marife cannot go to jail to meet Jimmy. She has no legal documents to show. They had to rely with other documented Filipino friends to bring Jimmy’s things. Marife now has to work more hours than necessary to pay the debt they incurred while processing for Jimmy’s papers, which wasn’t fully paid yet as Jimmy was only able to work for some number of months.

Who reported about the undocumented workers’ presence in the factory? A fellow Filipino.

Ate Susan had been living illegally here in Seoul for the past six years. The last time she was in the Philippines her daughter was 4 years old (she is now turning 11 years old). She’s living here with her husband, also undocumented. The daughter is being taken cared of by her sister in the province. They send money for their daughter’s needs as well as for her sister’s family’s needs. Her sister is looking after her daughter, after all. She got pregnant again and is due to deliver first week of July. She plans to go back to the Philippines for good after giving birth to personally take care of their children. The husband will remain here with the everyday hope that he will not be caught by immigration officers.

Marife stopped working for me because I had to go home for Christmas vacation last year. I told her that it was ok if she had to take on another job for the days she was working with me. It would have been unfair for her if she waited for me and she wasn’t paid anything. Ate Susan stopped working for me this year as her belly was already getting bigger and it was getting more difficult for her to work. She recommended my current part-timer, Tintin. Tintin is luckier. She is working here with legal papers as a domestic helper to an embassy consul. Her contract is only three times a week so she has time to work for other employers. But Tintin left her sponsor’s employment because of disagreement over salary. With the help of their “network”, she found another one for other days of the week. She only works for me every Saturday.

Ate Susan also introduced me to Ate Lorna when I needed a tarpaulin for my son’s birthday last year. Ate Lorna knew of a store in Dongdaemun. I met Ate Lorna in a subway. She was wearing a hat to conceal her hair-less head. She was undergoing chemotheraphy. She has cancer. She had been living here in Seoul for 12 years already. Last year when I met her, she was no longer working. She was staying in a religious institution which supports her treatments. I asked why she did not go home to the Philippines. It would be harder, she said. The treatment, the money, the everyday expenses… While she was working here in Seoul, she sent her nieces to school. She had a nurse already and one was waiting for the board exam. She is single and her happiness rests on the achievements of those she helped. What of her now that she needs help?

It isn’t always a hard and sad life. Some lucky ones turn to support groups, church organizations being the most popular. They get their strength from each other and develop life-long friendship bonded by their common status in a place far away from home. They go to out of town trips together. They organize picnics. It’s just sad that they have to be constantly wary of the people they deal with, lest they will be reported to immigration. Sadder of it all is, they have to be wary of their fellow Pinoys.

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I am one proud mommy. I’m sure all mommies are.  There’s an interesting photo contest for the 2009 cutest kid of the year. If you are interested, submit your kid’s photo to TheCuteKid.

It’s easy. Just upload your kid’s cutest photo to the site above and every month, the judges select 5 finalists and 1 Cute Kid winner. The 2009 Cute Kid winner will receive very grand prizes and a possible early exposure to the limelight:-).

I say, good luck to those who will be joining this 2009 Cute Kid of The Year Cutest Baby Picture Competition. Don’t forget to give us an update here.

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How do you make friends? Do you make friends because you instinctively like the person? Do you make friends because you need them?

What are your reasons for making friends with a particular person?

A month ago, a mother living in the same apartment where I live sent me a message if I had time to spare so that our boys could play together. I readily agreed as Little Dynamo and I were free that time. And I have already said no several times in the past because our schedule wouldn’t permit it. After several meetings and after knowing that my son has a playgroup scheduled every Wednesday, she also asked if we can schedule our boys’ playtime together. Now, aside from school, my son’s weekdays are full:-).

She is a very efficient mom with a very smart and obedient boy. She is one of those rare Korean women who believes that the English language is not a subject. It should be part of their daily life. Her little boy, without an English hagwon, speaks good english for his age. The boy can speak both Korean and English… because the mom makes the effort to speak to him in English. During one of our play time last week, the mom spoke Korean to another lady. Her boy reminded her “Don’t speak Korean. It’s English time”.

It dawned on me. Oh, my son and I are good companies for the boy’s English education:-). Kids don’t lie.

I know Korean moms are aggressive when it comes to their children’s development, even more so for their children’s English education. English is just a must in this very competitive society. I also know that some of my friends initially like to be with me to learn a thing or two about the English language or at least, practice their English speaking skills. It’s just that, this is the first time that it hit me straight in the face.

Nope, I didn’t take it against her. I was simply amused. Truth be told, I also enjoy being with her and learning from her. I think I have learned a lot of insights from her, in terms of how Korean moms are, more than from any other Korean friend that I have.

Oh well, sometimes the motives do not matter anymore when, in the process, you would grow to genuinely like each other’s company:-).

As my father is in the construction business, there was a time when he owned a number of trucks. These trucks were parked behind our house and they would pass by my bedroom window and emit foul-smelling engine smells. I didn’t need an alarm clock to wake up early for school.

Aside from the engine smells, I also remember my mother’s anxiety each time a truck runs into any kind of trouble. Her anxiety can be stressful:-). If they had acquired some truck winches before, I’m sure it could have lessened some stress. This truck accessory is essential especially in the construction business where you can’t afford to have some delivery delays.

I will be back home this coming October to give birth. I will have to wake up to the sound of the truck passing by my window again.

I have so many things to do!

And I haven’t finished any of them. It isn’t because I don’t have the time to do them all. It’s my lack of discipline to do them all. I spend so much time browsing the net for some trivial information.

Here’s what I have set out to do some weeks back:

  • check and list down and make comparison of all possible investment (properties - condominiums - for sale in the Philippines) opportunities
  • read the books!!! that have been waiting for me
  • research on how to teach English phonics to my son (I don’t know how to begin) - he is showing signs of readiness to read words already
  • check on vacation options
  • make my Philippine vacation budget (this will be a looong one since I will be giving birth there)
  • check on things to do while I am in the Philippines (a short course, maybe?)

Goodluck! Hubby had been constantly reminding me of the things I need to do. I guess, he needs to remind me more often:-).

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